Here's the thing: Though there are many, many events affiliated with the wedding-planning and wedding process, you absolutely don't have to hit them all. In fact, there are a few good reasons to pick and choose. For starters, some events just aren't for everyone, which is perfectly okay. The idea of being the center of attention at a bridal shower, for example, can be particularly nerve-wracking; an alternative is to experience your shower (or any of the below parties that traditionally honor just one half of the to-be-weds) together with something like a Jack and Jill party, instead.

Another reason to select your wedding festivities intentionally? Your budget. "Budgeting for multiple pre-wedding events and celebrations can be challenging, but with careful planning and communication, it's possible to manage expenses effectively," says Powell. "Start with some of the bigger budget items for your wedding and the most important events and then work outwards. Getting concrete numbers for your wedding day and officially booking your vendors can really help you understand your budget priorities—and what you’re willing to compromise on for your ancillary events." When you're ready to start working through those pre-wedding event compromises, "sit down with your partner and families to prioritize which pre-wedding events are most important to you," adds Powell. "You may decide to allocate more of your budget to certain events, such as the rehearsal dinner or cultural celebrations, while scaling back on others." And if, after you crunch the numbers, hosting one or more of these lower priority parties just isn't possible? Cut them accordingly. "Feel free to remove that farewell brunch—it is the one event we know guests will not miss," reveals Powell.